By Zoe Taylor
The best version of yourself is the version that is going to make you happiest. Once you’ve decided exactly what that version is, you can start to make sure your lifestyle compliments that, and ensure you live up to that version of yourself each and every day.
But how? Well there are a few ways you can determine the best of you, to make sure you’re always on top of your game (remembering that it’s okay to slip sometimes).
Highlight your best qualities
You need to establish what your best qualities are. Pin point the ones you value most, and work on portraying them all the time. If it makes it easier to remember, write these qualities down. Also decide on the personality traits you want to improve.
If you’re optimistic, good under pressure and kind, then you should embrace that and work at portraying those qualities the majority of the time. If you stress out easily, find activities or exercises that de-stress you and undertake them when the stress starts to become distress. If you find yourself having negative thoughts most of the time, work on your positivity, and find ways to stop yourself when you start thinking negatively.
It’s also important that you don’t see the traits you want to work on as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ traits, because they’re not. They’re just as much a part of who you are as the traits. The message here isn’t to change who you are, but rather discover the best version of yourself and work out how you’re going to make sure you are portraying that version most of the time.
Stand by your values
Your key values are part of who you are. Make sure they’re concrete, and you don’t waver your opinion depending on who you’re with. People will respect you more if you stick to your beliefs (even if their beliefs are on the contrary) and most importantly you will respect yourself.
By sticking to your rules and morals, you have a clearer idea of exactly who you are. Chopping and changing your opinions depending on who you’re with, for example, can be confusing and disheartening, as you start to question your beliefs. This is not to say that you can’t take other people’s opinions on board and agree to some extent to opposing arguments. The idea is that you should stick to your guns and not be afraid of what people will think of you if you express a certain opinion about something, thereby completely flipping your views depending on your company.
Be accepting of others
As well as sticking to your own beliefs, it’s important that you accept and respect the beliefs of others. Trying to change other people’s opinions is a tiresome battle and can even be disrespectful. Not only will you wear yourself out with the frustration of trying and failing to get them on your side of the fence, you’ll most likely cause offence in the process.
You should also ask yourself why you even bother worrying about what someone else thinks. It’s their opinion, everyone’s entitled to one and there’s no point trying to make everyone around you hold the same set of values as you. Try not to let it affect you, because at the end of the day it’s really not worth it. After all, if you expect it from them it’s only fair that you give them the same courtesy.
Working on these three things will get you well on the way to being the best version of yourself that you can be, and in turn bring you happiness.
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